Throughout my life, I’ve always tried to give people the benefit of the doubt, and trust what people tell me.
For the past few months, my cousin has chose to confide in me about problems they’re having with their spouse. I’ve been the one they come to to bounce idea’s off of, chat with, and even occasionally lend a shoulder too so they can cry. It’s been nice for me because it’s brought us a lot closer, and enabled us to become better friends and family. I’ve really liked it.
About a month ago, she decided she was going to go in for some plastic surgery. She told me right away, and I told her that she had my support, and i’d do everything I could do to help out. Her and I have got together a few times prior to her surgery, and we discussed it in detail. I had asked her what exactly she was having done, and she simply told me a breast augmentation.
The day of her surgery, her husband called me at 3pm to tell me she was just about to get out of the operating room. I questioned him and was pretty worried why it would take so long knowing she went in at 8am that morning. He said that nothing was out of the ordinary, and all was well. So I knew immediately that I didn’t have the whole story. I knew that when I asked her what she was having done, and she gave me “her answer”, it was a half answer and not the truth.
During this time, she’s had numerous family and friend go and help take care of her kids while she’s recovering. Today, her husband came out so her daughter and my kids could play together. While he was here, he was explaining why she was in so much pain. He explained to me that she had a few different procedures done, not just what she had told me. I was pretty shocked when I heard the news. To get confirmation that someone that you thought you could trust whole heartedly has been lying to you about the smallest little things, just makes you wonder, can you really trust this person?
Sadly, I started reflecting on all the conversations we’ve had over the last few months, and I started putting the pieces together of the times I thought she could be lying to me, and it makes just not want to have those conversations anymore. I’ve trusted her, and honestly thought she wouldn’t keep things from me, but I guess the days of trusting people has just fallen by the wayside. I hate more than anything to be lied too. I would have never thought my cousin would lie to me about something so trivial. I guess she has her reasons, and I have no place to judge her, but why sit in front of me, and tell me something that’s completely false rather than just telling me, it’s not your fucking business.
Seriously, who can you trust these days?